Single and Not Ready to Mingle
For most of my adult life I have been single. I’ve spent year after year watching class mates from both high school and college say ‘Yes’ and ‘I Do’ while I sit in my room alone watching Netflix and eating popcorn (kettle corn of course.) I’ve been a third wheel to my friends and their significant others more times than I can count and there have been times when loneliness have overwhelmed my heart.
I know you single men and women can relate when I say that there have been numerous times when I see yet another person on Facebook change their relationship status and I ask myself…’what’s wrong with me?’
I have spent so many years looking at my singleness as a curse or a burden I didn’t want to bear. I’ve been told that I could be married by now if ‘I wasn’t so picky’ or ‘at the rate I’m going I won’t be married till I’m in my 40s.’
I asked myself the other day is settling to have love and affection worth sacrificing what I feel God has called me to wait for?
The answer is NO!
You single women or single man who are struggling in this waiting game with me, look at your singleness as a gift. God has gifted you with personal, non-interrupted, one on one time with Him. You have the freedom to go on mission for Him, you have the freedom to seek after your own person calling from Him, You have the time and space to meet intimately with the Lord!
Paul tells us in 1 Corinthians 32 that, “I want you to be free from anxieties. The unmarried man is anxious about the things of the Lord, how to please the Lord”
In our singleness we get the freedom to focus on the Lord and living our lives solely for Him, not at the mercy of someone else’s dreams or desires, just you and the Lord.
Your singleness is not a burden it’s a blessing.
Dig into what the Lord has for you in this season. Let the Lord fill that relationship sized hole in your heart! The Lord wants to consume your heart, to fill every hole and crevice with His love and embrace; so that when the time comes and He does send a spouse your way they do not consume your heart, but join you in the praise you are already giving to the Lord through your life lived for Him.
The Lord desires to know you, He longs to make you His bride, and He loves you more deeply than any human ever can. Let Him in, give Him access to the deepest parts of you. Let Him woe you. Let Him show you that His agape love is better than anything you could ever imagine.
You may only be single for a season, don’t waste it wishing for the future.
How have you been pursuing the Lord in your time of singleness?
